I feel I'm already in the middle of a conversation with you - like accidentally meeting your favorite writer in the cue at the bank and excitingly asking him something clever about his jewish mother to which he'd indignantly reply "...and you are?!"

Out of respect for you, I'll stay away from self-descriptions that look like grocery lists (I am I do I like). When people say they have a "quirky" sense of humor and there is nothing quirky, corky or otherwise funny in their underdeveloped tirade, it makes me think of the Marlboro man that died of lung cancer. I'd rather project and dream instead. Afterall, I'm just an instrument of fate anyway.

Your profile would be quite different than the usual mix of "outdoorsy", "low maintenance", "flames fan", or bluntly put, "I just want someone to cuddle on the couch with while I watch inane TV so I don't have to face the mediocrity of my existence and possibly, non-specific deity forbid, have an unique thought or an authentic feeling pierce through my body and bleed me of all my innocuous life energy.

I'd also appreciate you being specific, and saying it loud and proud. Like you, I would meet someone knowing there is a good chance to develop something meaningful, rather than dating just because it beats watching wrestling on TV.

But most importantly, I LOVE you mentioning and demanding maturity and self-sufficiency. Relationships are not for the emotionally invalid. I'm sick of being sucked into re-enacting family of origin dynamics and regressive streaks. There has to be something else in addition to these groundhog day moments, something intentional, creative, inquisitive, etc.

I'm not gonna go into my life story here. If what you read so far hasn't piqued your interest, this cant be helped by the surreal tale of my recent trip to Cuba. Besides, when we finally retreat to a poorly lit place for a cup-o-jo, I'll tell you about all the startling places Ive seen, the revelations I had and how I followed my bliss.